I am feminist but I am not a feminist, confused?
This is a world of men, and women are just playing side roles, right? And when women talk about equality and rights then we are feminists, again right? We always hold second position because we are not as capable as men, right?
If you think that’s right then you are wrong, women were always at position two because we were told that, we were placed on that position, we weren’t even allowed to run in the race of life we were given that position by them.
But now we are not the same ones, we have changed we made efforts for that and we are making every day, you men are living in your comfort zone from birth but we are fighting for our birth rights as a human. And this battle has begun.
we are taking your first position in several fields and you are scared because we are doing it better than you. You call us feminists because you are scared that we are going to take your all positions because women are not less than men.
In one way or another we all are fighting for our rights, somewhere in our family, in our society, in our office or in our heart. But we all are fighting for some rights and equality in our own ways. We all are feminist at some point but we just don’t want to accept it.
Yes, I get so happy when I see a woman growing in any field, I feel proud of that lady and for the hard work and struggle she did behind that success. I feel good about being a woman and if that’s what feminism is then hell yeah, I am feminist.
We need to change some stereotypes about being a writer, well we do. Being writer doesn’t mean we have to be alone all the time for some extra ‘me’ time to write, doesn’t mean we have to cut people out of our lives, and it definitely doesn’t mean that we have to be boring.
Who says writer can’t be sarcastic or can’t go nuts, who says they only love beaches for long walks, who says nights are their favorite time just because of its silence, who says the only time they dance is in front of the mirror, who says they are the quietest ones in the group?
Maybe I want this, but I also love going to beach with my friends for some bubbly fun, I love going to clubs at night and having sleepovers with my girlies, I dance like crazy at parties (or you can say I am a party animal), I am definitely not the quiet one (you can concern my friends).
Being writer just means to be you, the original one. Who so ever you are, don’t try to change yourself to get fit in some stereotypes, be completely you and that would make it more interesting.
When you feel, something is not right, there is nothing wrong in cross checking the things. So, what if you over think and you have anxieties? You are giving your whole into that relationship and you deserve all that back. You are just being possessive about the thing that is yours and to me it is completely ok. If they are unable to understand your fear of losing them, you must lose them.
we fight and fight and fight every day, we scream and shout and cry every day, we drive each other crazy, we push each other to that end where there is nothing but just darkness, we go nuts and say things we don’t mean but we say to hurt each other deep, but the only thing we consider after all this is splitting up is not our thing. Fight happens because we care, we care about the little things and changes, we care about each other and about our relation, we are jealous because we don’t want to lose each other and at the end we both know we are doing this for us and that’s what counts after all. we push each other into the darkness but we both are together in there and we both find a way to brightness together.
“Girls walk neck and neck with boys.”
People say in today’s generation we girls walk neck and neck with boys. Means we are as capable as boys in every situation, really? Are we? Yeah, we are equal in terms of brains but in physical strength boys do have more strength than girls. Some girls may get offend by this statement but this is just my opinion.
When a mother gives birth to a child, whether to her own child or being surrogate for any other mother, she does that with all the selflessness, she is never selfish in carrying a baby for 9 months in her tummy, in facing all the mood swings, do not even think about her body or figure, and the labor pain that feels like breaking 206 bones in a human body. And to add cherry on our cake we get periods every month, all the pain, irritating of sanitary pads and the mood swings. Can a boy even imagine how it feel likes? Or how would it feel like whenever we are planning for a trip or there is any marriage or any occasion we have to think about ours periods first? Women are beautiful from their heart they are not rude and mean like boys, never could ever a boy would go through all these for giving birth to a new person.
Ladies we don’t want equality we need equity. We are not made for proving our strengths with these boys we are soft, delightful, sensitive and emotional.
We are not like them and don’t even want to be like them, we don’t need to be like them, I am not saying that we should stay at home and take care of children and just cook, No, do the things you love either it’s about wrestling or about gym we girls can do anything we want but do not compare your strength with boys. We have our own powers that a boy can never have.
And this is my opinion may be yours is different, just let me know what you think about it.
“You are dark but beautiful “
Some people say it’s a compliment but I see it as a racist comment. Why can’t you just say, you are beautiful? Why you have to mention that I am dark? Why we always consider dark people as ugly ones? Do you ever say this to a white person, you are white but beautiful? Why white is always considered as the reflection of beauty?
Am I evil?
Why always black color is a symbol of evil, demons and is a source of all the negative energy and white is taken as the color of angels and is considered for the positive energy? No matter how beautiful a dark person is, they will always say “black beauty”. Why not just beauty? Why you are telling me that I am black? I already know that and I love my skin color.
The concept of melanin
Melanin is present in each person of this world, darker people have more melanin in their body that’s why they have dark skin, dark hair and dark eyes. And white people have less melanin and hence are mostly blonde with blue or green eyes. And just because I have more melanin in my body than you have that doesn’t make me any less beautiful, I have beautiful features like you have then why you are considered as just beautiful and I am dark but beautiful?
Benefits of dark skin
Dark people are more photogenic, they can wear any color clothes without taking care which will suit more because everything looks just right, Melanin along with other factors, acts as a “natural umbrella” and prevents harmful radiation from entering your skin, they are less prone to skin cancers.
There are several dark-skinned model/actors are present and are most loved too but they also faced a lot of criticism when they were growing up. The best example is the Senegalese model, Khoudia Diop and she calls herself as melanin goddess.
Today, I found myself smiling in the middle of the noon having a cup of decaf coffee in my hand at the city midway coffee house. I was looking far away in the distance didn’t sure what I was looking for? But sure, I was thinking about, you. I was thinking about the late-night calls where we used to discuss about our future like we had a clue! I was thinking about the silly names you gave me which I hated the most then but miss the most now. About our silly fights which used to start from the morning wish and used to drag them till 2 a.m. and after that we got to realize that no fight is bigger than our relation. The care we had for each other in our hearts that no words can explain, the love we shared that no song can describe, the kisses we had that even Cecelia Ahern can’t write about in her novels.
I know we lost it, we lost the love and interest in each other and I also know that we have moved on and we have different lives now. That we are not for each other and we are not going to cross each other’s paths ever. And I am not blaming you or me for this, whatever happened the truth is it happened. I know why we called it off, I know we couldn’t even stand next to each other or maybe we can’t now. But the one thing that we cannot change is that we were together and that we shared a lot of moments together and we made memories for life. I am not denying about the bad memories we had but I am not going to take them with me, I picked all the best ones, the ones which include our smile, our laughter, giggles, love and kisses. I am going to take them with me and I am going to keep them with me.
I miss the old we, the we before the rude ignorance and screaming and shouting, the we which couldn’t keep their hands off each other, the we which couldn’t fall asleep if didn’t hear the voice of one another and I definitely don’t miss you but I do miss our love and the “we” we made.I can’t change our present and future but I am not going to leave the best part of my past like this, so what if we are not together now but we hit it in past and it was beautiful and I will never let those moments fade away in my memory. I will keep them a live within me till the end of time.
Words are not just words they are friends to me, they don’t just describe the things I Say but they describe me. Being a writer, I know the value of words when I use them. I can make sense or can play dangerous with them. I don’t just make sentences, I pour feelings in my words. They help in changing someone’s life, someone’s opinion and sometimes they help in changing the world. The president, the actor, the singer and the dictators as well, every one convinces you with same words just by playing the words jumble.
The Obama, the Osama, mother Teresa or the Hitler, they all changed the world whether in a good or in a bad way. Either inspirational, terrified, kind or frightened they had words for their audience. First you say words, you make promises, you describe the whole situation with your words and then your actions prove it but if they were convinced with your words then only they would wait until you put them into actions.
Your words can make someone smile or cry, can make someone confident or can drag them into pool of doubts, can give someone the pain of laugh in their stomach or can give them the pain of betrayal in their chest, can force someone’s heart to say “yes” or can break someone so hard to scream “no”.
There are not much words in any language but the way we describe them is different, we can be kind or mean and I am not saying that you always must be kind.
This world works like a coin, if there is good side to a thing than there would be other side too. You can be mean or kind to someone that’s your own choice but never be always mean or always kind because that’s not how it works. Even the Hitler was kind to the people of his community.
Words have a lot of power choose them wisely and rule the world.