Feminist but not a feminist!

I am feminist but I am not a feminist, confused?

This is a world of men, and women are just playing side roles, right? And when women talk about equality and rights then we are feminists, again right? We always hold second position because we are not as capable as men, right?

If you think that’s right then you are wrong, women were always at position two because we were told that, we were placed on that position, we weren’t even allowed to run in the race of life we were given that position by them.

But now we are not the same ones, we have changed we made efforts for that and we are making every day, you men are living in your comfort zone from birth but we are fighting for our birth rights as a human. And this battle has begun.

we are taking your first position in several fields and you are scared because we are doing it better than you. You call us feminists because you are scared that we are going to take your all positions because women are not less than men.

In one way or another we all are fighting for our rights, somewhere in our family, in our society, in our office or in our heart. But we all are fighting for some rights and equality in our own ways. We all are feminist at some point but we just don’t want to accept it.

Yes, I get so happy when I see a woman growing in any field, I feel proud of that lady and for the hard work and struggle she did behind that success. I feel good about being a woman and if that’s what feminism is then hell yeah, I am feminist.IMG_20170905_133812

 

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love is unbreakable

we fight and fight and fight every day, we scream and shout and cry every day, we drive each other crazy, we push each other to that end where there is nothing but just darkness, we go nuts and say things we don’t mean but we say to hurt each other deep, but the only thing we consider after all this is splitting up is not our thing. Fight happens because we care, we care about the little things and changes, we care about each other and about our relation, we are jealous because we don’t want to lose each other and at the end  we both know we are doing this for us and that’s what counts after all. we push each other into the darkness but we both are together in there and we both find a way to brightness together.

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Two Sides Of A Coin

Everything has two sides in universe, one is good, one is bad. A person is friends with someone and enemy of someone else, a thing might have good effect on you but might harm somebody, even the laws made for our benefits are misused by some people, all the objects of this universe has two sides just like a coin. We should always accept that everything good comes with some bad too. We should always be prepared for that too, there is nothing in this universe that is all good or all bad. Even if we breathe we are taking the oxygen and giving carbon dioxide to the environment. It is similar as we are sitting in an a/c car, it’s cool inside but leaving double as heat outside. We can’t change it but can only accept it, “there is an evil in every god and god in every evil”.

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I Know My Strengths.

“Girls walk neck and neck with boys.”

People say in today’s generation we girls walk neck and neck with boys. Means we are as capable as boys in every situation, really? Are we? Yeah, we are equal in terms of brains but in physical strength boys do have more strength than girls. Some girls may get offend by this statement but this is just my opinion.

When a mother gives birth to a child, whether to her own child or being surrogate for any other mother, she does that with all the selflessness, she is never selfish in carrying a baby for 9 months in her tummy, in facing all the mood swings, do not even think about her body or figure, and the labor pain that feels like breaking 206 bones in a human body. And to add cherry on our cake we get periods every month, all the pain, irritating of sanitary pads and the mood swings. Can a boy even imagine how it feel likes? Or how would it feel like whenever we are planning for a trip or there is any marriage or any occasion we have to think about ours periods first? Women are beautiful from their heart they are not rude and mean like boys, never could ever a boy would go through all these for giving birth to a new person.

Ladies we don’t want equality we need equity. We are not made for proving our strengths with these boys we are soft, delightful, sensitive and emotional.

We are not like them and don’t even want to be like them, we don’t need to be like them, I am not saying that we should stay at home and take care of children and just cook, No, do the things you love either it’s about wrestling or about gym we girls can do anything we want but do not compare your strength with boys. We have our own powers that a boy can never have.

And this is my opinion may be yours is different, just let me know what you think about it.

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It Ain’t Ok

He says he loves you and he mean it too, he says he will be with you forever and you know he is a loyal man, you trust every word he says because you know him. You know he won’t ever leave you or ditch you, he was and is loyal for you. He is a one woman, man and you believe him so much. He is focused and ambitious man, he has beautiful smile and pretty eyes, he is charming and you couldn’t afford losing him. But is it ok, if he ignores you over other things because you know he is not flirting with any girl? If he tells you he is busy the whole day and don’t even have 2 minutes for you from 1440 minutes of his day, you are last in his priority list, he is disrespecting you and your decisions, your opinion doesn’t mean anything to him, he treats you the worst way.

It ain’t ok because that’s not worth it and you don’t deserve it. If he can’t treat you well, he has no rights to have you, just because he is not talking to someone else doesn’t give him right to ignore you. You are not meant to be treated this way, you gotta stand up and shout no to this. Because it Ain’t ok.

Dark But Beautiful

“You are dark but beautiful “

Some people say it’s a compliment but I see it as a racist comment. Why can’t you just say, you are beautiful? Why you have to mention that I am dark? Why we always consider dark people as ugly ones? Do you ever say this to a white person, you are white but beautiful? Why white is always considered as the reflection of beauty?

Am I evil?

Why always black color is a symbol of evil, demons and is a source of all the negative energy and white is taken as the color of angels and is considered for the positive energy? No matter how beautiful a dark person is, they will always say “black beauty”. Why not just beauty? Why you are telling me that I am black? I already know that and I love my skin color.

The concept of melanin

Melanin is present in each person of this world, darker people have more melanin in their body that’s why they have dark skin, dark hair and dark eyes. And white people have less melanin and hence are mostly blonde with blue or green eyes. And just because I have more melanin in my body than you have that doesn’t make me any less beautiful, I have beautiful features like you have then why you are considered as just beautiful and I am dark but beautiful?

Benefits of dark skin

Dark people are more photogenic, they can wear any color clothes without taking care which will suit more because everything looks just right, Melanin along with other factors, acts as a “natural umbrella” and prevents harmful radiation from entering your skin, they are less prone to skin cancers.

 

There are several dark-skinned model/actors are present and are most loved too but they also faced a lot of criticism when they were growing up. The best example is the Senegalese model, Khoudia Diop and she calls herself as melanin goddess.asfsdg.JPG